{"id":17040,"date":"2026-05-19T01:59:29","date_gmt":"2026-05-19T01:59:29","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/saharanews.in\/2026\/05\/19\/this-pediatricians-advice-may-sound-wrong-at-first-but-it-could-actually-make-you-a-better-parent\/"},"modified":"2026-05-19T01:59:29","modified_gmt":"2026-05-19T01:59:29","slug":"this-pediatricians-advice-may-sound-wrong-at-first-but-it-could-actually-make-you-a-better-parent","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/saharanews.in\/?p=17040","title":{"rendered":"This pediatrician\u2019s advice may sound wrong at first, but it could actually make you a better parent"},"content":{"rendered":"<p> <br \/>\n<\/p>\n<div>\n<div class=\"e9jwa\">\n<div class=\"vdo_embedd\">\n<div class=\"GfdvZ\">\n<section class=\"_bIDB  clearfix id-r-component leadmedia undefined undefined  E9tg9 \" style=\"top:0px\">\n<div class=\"_bIDB\" data-ua-type=\"1\" onclick=\"stpPgtnAndPrvntDefault(event)\">\n<div class=\"ypVvZ\">\n<div class=\"WGttI\"><img src=\"https:\/\/static.toiimg.com\/thumb\/msid-131184947,imgsize-964270,width-400,height-225,resizemode-4\/photo-instagramdrravimalik-and-canva.jpg\" alt=\"\u201cYou have to learn to be a little selfish\u201d: This pediatrician\u2019s advice may sound wrong at first, but it could actually make you a better parent\" title=\"Photo: Instagram\/@drravimalik and Canva\" decoding=\"async\" fetchpriority=\"high\"\/><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"Ta7d_ img_cptn\"><span title=\"Photo: Instagram\/@drravimalik and Canva\">Photo: Instagram\/@drravimalik and Canva<\/span><\/div>\n<\/section>\n<\/div><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<p>Sacrifices have always been glorified as the biggest sign of love. For parenthood, society has always celebrated parents who put themselves last. But now, a pediatrician has challenged this belief and shared a refreshing stance on being a \u201cgood parent.<!-- -->\u201d <span class=\"id-r-component br\" data-pos=\"3\"\/>According to Dr. Ravi Malik, if you want to be a good parent you have to learn to be a little selfish. While the statement may initially sound inappropriate to some people, the real essence of the doctor\u2019s suggestion is something much more practical. <span class=\"id-r-component br\" data-pos=\"5\"\/><\/p>\n<p><h2>What does the doctor mean by being selfish<br \/><\/h2>\n<\/p>\n<p>In many households, parents often feel pressured to meet the expectations of their relatives, neighbours and the overall society around them. Whether it is attending functions, helping extended family, or always being available, saying yes becomes a habit. <!-- -->Dr. Ravi says, \u201cIt isn\u2019t a necessity to stand up to every relative\u2019s expectations.\u201d He shares a bold stance and adds that prioritising social expectations over children is not good parenting.<span class=\"id-r-component br\" data-pos=\"12\"\/> <\/p>\n<div data-pos=\"0\" class=\"id-r-component iIpbx undefined  &#10;        \">\n<div><img decoding=\"async\" alt=\"Photo: Canva\" msid=\"131184970\" width=\"\" title=\"\" placeholdersrc=\"https:\/\/static.toiimg.com\/photo\/83033472.cms\" imgsize=\"\" resizemode=\"4\" offsetvertical=\"0\" placeholdermsid=\"47529300\" type=\"thumb\" class=\"\" src=\"https:\/\/static.toiimg.com\/photo\/msid-131184970\/photo-canva.jpg\" data-api-prerender=\"true\"\/><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<p><span class=\"id-r-component br\" data-pos=\"15\"\/><\/p>\n<p><h2>\u201cParents must learn how to say no\u201d <br \/><\/h2>\n<\/p>\n<p>Stating that parents should also learn to use the word \u201cno,\u201d Dr. Ravi says parents should know how to set boundaries in every aspect of life and think carefully before saying yes to everything. Stating that parents should also learn to use the word \u201cno,\u201d Dr. Ravi says parents should know how to set boundaries in every aspect of life and think carefully before saying yes to everything.<span class=\"id-r-component br\" data-pos=\"20\"\/>He further explains that every \u201cyes\u201d comes at a cost, and whenever parents say yes to something, they are also indirectly saying no to many other important things in life.<span class=\"id-r-component br\" data-pos=\"22\"\/><\/p>\n<p><h2>Parents must protect and prioritize time<br \/><\/h2>\n<\/p>\n<p>He stresses that parents must understand that time is limited, and managing it wisely is extremely important. If parents do not learn to protect and prioritise their time, the impact eventually falls on either their children or their own health. <!-- -->The doctor adds that when parents constantly say yes to outside demands, they may unknowingly be saying no to their mental peace, career, health, sleep, and even quality time with their children.<span class=\"id-r-component br\" data-pos=\"27\"\/> <span class=\"id-r-component br\" data-pos=\"30\"\/><\/p>\n<p><h2>Boundaries are important in parenting<br \/><\/h2>\n<\/p>\n<p>The real message Dr. Ravi\u2019s words are more about setting boundaries, and boundaries are not a sign of selfishness but a sign of healthy parenting.<span class=\"id-r-component br\" data-pos=\"33\"\/>Also, when children observe how their parents manage difficult situations and prioritise personal wellbeing, they unknowingly develop similar behaviors in themselves. In essence, healthy boundaries teach children the importance of balance, self-respect, and emotional wellbeing.<span class=\"id-r-component br\" data-pos=\"35\"\/>Sometimes, learning to say \u201cno\u201d to unnecessary pressure may actually be saying \u201cyes\u201d to better parenting.<span class=\"id-r-component br\" data-pos=\"37\"\/><\/div>\n<p><br \/>\n<br \/><a href=\"https:\/\/timesofindia.indiatimes.com\/life-style\/parenting\/ask-the-expert\/you-have-to-learn-to-be-a-little-selfish-this-pediatricians-advice-may-sound-wrong-at-first-but-it-could-actually-make-you-a-better-parent\/articleshow\/131184665.cms\">Source link <\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Photo: Instagram\/@drravimalik and Canva Sacrifices have always been glorified as the biggest sign of love. For parenthood, society has always celebrated parents who put themselves last. But now, a pediatrician has challenged this belief and shared a refreshing stance on being a \u201cgood parent.\u201d According to Dr. Ravi Malik, if you want to be a&#8230;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":17041,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[29],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-17040","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-life-style"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/saharanews.in\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/17040","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/saharanews.in\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/saharanews.in\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/saharanews.in\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/saharanews.in\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=17040"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/saharanews.in\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/17040\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/saharanews.in\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/17041"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/saharanews.in\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=17040"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/saharanews.in\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=17040"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/saharanews.in\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=17040"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}